How often have you been feeling bad about y... - Above & Beyond
How often have you been feeling bad about yourself,or even felt you've let yourself or your family down since having depression and anxiety?
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Most days. And as it's long term obsv it goes on and on. And I have CFS on top of it. So shattered.
I always feel like ive let them down.even now I'm turning the corner.the depression/anxiety is never far away lurking in the background.
I think this feeling has been the cause of my anxiety. Working on my self esteem has helped me get over these feelings but there is always some self doubt.
So true when we have low self esteem it makes us a lot worse
Thanks for sharing
Nat x
Hermes123.I cannot see why anyone would need to feel bad about themselves for having a condition beyond their control, I can see the need for feeling bad with oneself, that is a totally different situation, not being able to get the result one needs, which leads to personal frustration, I never got the support from family members, if its something they cannot see! to them one is complaining about something or nothing, despite having multiple operations, pain so called relief drugs, joints worn away all over the body, I don't blame I just wish somebody could get though to them what I am going though on a daily basis, one goes to the shop some one have not seen for awhile, say's oh you look well, you don't blame them for that remark, just think to yourself if only they really knew.
I am so with you on this Hermes123 we have no fault in any of it but people don't get what they don't understand (e.g.: family or friends) if we had a choice we wouldn't be living with this would we..I understand it when we go out "if only you one's that's so true.
Thanks so much for sharing
Natx
Hermes123. Hi Natzsteveo pleased for your contact
I am pleased I am not the only one Nat that thinks like that, to burden others, is to load one self with more problems than one needs, one needs all one's power and strength to get through each day, by all means talk to a listening ear but don't burden other unnecessarily, to do so is to increase one's own stress.
My Father died when I was 5yrs. There was nothing I could do and my Mother was totally shattered. I became her go to person and did everything to help her, but when I did the wrong thing she became extremely critical.. I married a controlling and critical man when I was 18. I thought I would have stability. I have been trying to please someone my whole life. I am still married to my little general because I don't trust myself.I am aware I'm letting my fears control me.
Hi sweetiepye I'm so sorry to hear of your loss you have been through so much at such a young age maybe it's now time to start to please you....you also matter...our fears are so hard to deal with aren't they ... just take it easy on yourself try and make yourself as important as you make others
Take care
Nat x
I can't remember not feeling this way
I'm not always comfortable talking about this. I think that's it for me at this time.. Maybe I will do more later, but if I delve into it too much I have horrible nightmares Pam
Ok Pam sweetiepye I don't want you to feel uncomfortable or have nightmares that was a very big step you made to open up as much as you have just remember we are here anytime you feel the need you want to talk about anything or pm us please don't hesitate to contact us.
Thank you for sharing
Nat x
I am surprised by this. I am 71 and I was 7 when this happened, so for all those years in between I buried this information.,I started self harming at 7. I didn't know any thing about cutting yourself but I would scratch myself over and over until I had broken through the skin and I would go a little deeper because I wanted a scab . I always did this on my face. People had to have noticed though I don't remember anyone saying anything. This must have been the first out ward symptom of my depression. II am honestly happy that this has come up as it's part of my life I have been unaware of That poor little girl that was me. Thank you, Pam
Im so glad you feel you can open up slowly to me in your own time...eventually we do have get it out off our chest and face it chick I was physically and mentally abused by my father when I was a child from as young as 3 years old im now 42 and only just started to drop little parts in conversation I feel comfy in....so believe me I know how very hard and very traumatic it is to start to let out something you have buried away so deep for so long I found keeping it hidden only tormented me more but didnt want it bringing up incase it triggered it all back...alot of people do self harm as a coping strategy to numb the pain we feel mentally fir a short while but then they are left with reminder scars why they was done in in the first place..everybody copes different I have a tendancy to jump unexpectedly im a very nervous person because of my past...just take your time. Youve come to the right place you are not alone in any of this always here if you need to talk some more if you prefer to private message me your more rhan welcome too @sweetiepye stay positive always here..
Love nat xx
I always blame myself for not standing up for myself and lettj g others rule my life why wasn't I strong enough to tell them how I felt I thought they were thinking of me but now I don't think they were so much has happened I feel they got fed up with me
Please don't blame yourself alfie19 it's not easy to do especially when you are so low is it..it's not that you weren't strong enough to tell them how you felt maybe it's because you didn't know what you felt yourself ...it's when you go through really bad times you realise who there and who's not...I didn't tell my friends or what family I had left a lot because they just didn't get me they would roll there eyes and make me feel worse than I already did..so I felt "in the way" we shouldn't have to feel like that in my eyes it's hard enough to deal with let alone dealing with things alone too...
Here if you need to talk
Nat
Thanks Nat yes You are right I thought I was ok I told everyone how I was feeling and about my illness but most days I would turn a blind eye and it was much easier for me to say I was ok but really I was burying my true feelings cos I really didn't understand myself it is only in the last few years by being quiet that I can now really listen to my body and give my body what it needs. Thank You so much for listening
Hello alfie19 you are more than welcome anytime you need to talk about anything at all we are always here remember we are not alone and we get you and understand how you feel and what you go through with no judgement at all becauae we know what it's like to go through this...always here my friend
Nat x