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Hi all. Normally a tough cookie , am but I am a bit tearful . My birthday today and I was determined to not let my tinnitus have any say today , not let it get to me physically or mentally . Woke to the Radio 5 discussion and now am having to grit my teeth - treated myself to hair cut and colour but have had to come and sit in a corner of the salon because the noise of hairdryers and chatting on top of my roaring tinnitus is causing so much pain I have had to ask to move ( embarrassing ). I know we are all tough and that we should be happy we have tinitus ( as one guy said this morning) but this is getting ridiculous 😢Thanks for being there

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LuverlyLucie

Hi Lyndsey. This awful condition gets to all of us at times however strong we are. It's okay to cry and sometimes you just need to. You are still you, you are still fabulous and I really hope you start feeling better soon and can enjoy a happy Birthday. You have my heartfelt hugs. Love Luverly Luciex

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Angela-H

Hi Lindsay, happy birthday, many happy returns and I hope that the day improves for you. Only we folk know how awful our affliction can be - remember you are not alone. My week has been bothersome but, hey ho, we just have to distract ourselves and cope. Do you know, I didn't go to the hairdresser for 12 months as my head pain was so bad. I hope you are able to take some meds to calm you and then it will get better. Love, Angela xx

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Lynne-H

Thinking of you on your birthday Lindsay. Tinnitus doesn`t care what day it is, but we all do - hope your birthday turns out to be a happy one.

Love Lynne xx

Have a lovely Birthday and keep your chin up ...Love glynis x

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ade-the-pade

Hello Lindsay. As others have said, it is ok to have a bad day. Even a few bad days. T is always there waiting to catch us out. You cannot underestimate how brave we all to live with this condition.

Birthdays are a funny time of the year and we can get a bit reflective about our lot. The number of times that I have said "Why me". On my down days I get low and think how am I going to live with T and hyperacusis every day?? But we get through and bounce back up.

I really hope that you find some peace and that you wake up tomorrow feeling in better spirits. I'm sending you an electronic hug and lots of positive energy.

Kind regards

Ade

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Lindsay6

Thank you all , so very very much. It does mean a lot and I hope you dont think.I just take ? Sorry I bothered people but I just needed to do something as I sat in the corner ( bit like a naughty school girl ) My hairdresser is fantastic though and has known me for ten years , and we chatted about her recent wedding and my visit to The Palace for The Award and my house move. Hair looking good too 😁. I have managed to enjoy the enjoyable natute of the day. Went to see my 82 year old father who gave me such a poetic and touching card it was very moving . And great news - today he heard that the Lottery applicatoon for his residents group I wrote has been 100 % successful. Then coffee with my friend and the hotel we walked to was perfect - noone else there ( all at Trent Bridge for the Test Match ) . Just opened my cards and gifts at my mums - again so touching. And though this may not sound good news to.others , it does to me , but I got copy of letter to my GP and dentist from TMJ consultant 2 weeks ago - stating I had significant maliofacial pain and ( not quite as blunt as this but ...) that they had to help as he advised. Right , wine and tea now. Thank you all so much xxx

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Seashore22 in reply to Lindsay6

Hi Lindsay, I'm glad your Birthday turned out happy and you enjoyed time with your family and friends and you received good news too. I too struggle very much at the hairdressers, it's time I went again ,but get self concious and embarrassed as get jumpy with noises and instead of enjoying iit get headache and ear discomfort. Good job the hair guys know me , as with the faces I must pull sometimes probably looks like don't like what had done when I do! Best wishes xx

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Elaine3

Hi Lindsay

Glad your birthday got better. I broke down in tears on my bday too, wondering if I would ever be free of the T. Also sprained my ankle and broke a bone in my foot that day! Think in part because I was distracted by tinnitus and not paying attention to uneven spot on the trail I was hiking. Seems we have some days where it just overwhelms us. People who don't have tinnitus really can't fully understand. I just try to take it a day at a time. Know that lots of people do get what you are going through. Hang in there!

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GDJTAM

🎶 Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Lindsay. Happy birthday to you 🎶 🎂

Sometimes we need a bad day to appreciate the good days, timing is awful for you though. T is on spoiler duty but you can dismiss it, get your T techniques and destroy it. Celebrate your birthday with friends and family, treat yourself and tell this T to bog off!

We are all behind you and sending cyber hugs.

hope you are better today,

Graham xx

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Lindsay6 in reply to GDJTAM

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Hi Lindsay 6

Been away for a couple of days, hope your birthday was a goodun, I'm sorry About your t and everyone's else's. don't see why we have to be happy we have T though, did he mean that we could have something worse ?

Keep with it Linsay6 you never know things might ease, I wish for that day my self xx

you have to let steam off and don't hold it in I get angry then depressed it s even harder when you cant tell any one because you feel daft

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Angela-H

Hi everyone and Lindsay I hope your weekend was calm. From what you wrote you had many good happenings on your birthday but, of course, life is never the same once we have our daily argument with our T.

There are many good people on this forum - our knowing community - which helps me so very much. It seems to me that it is the nice folk who get T. How I wish some of the world's evil-doers could be punished by having a life sentence of T.

Love and best to everyone. Angela xx

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NicBTAPartner

Happy belated birthday Lindsay!

I got woken up by friends messaging me to tell me tinnitus was on Radio 5 ... I'd spent the afternoon trying to sort out a case study, so I was well aware, but it was nice of them to show an interest!

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