Real anxious about doctors tomorrow any tips ?

[Runrabbit50]

Hi I suffer anxiety and ibs d I can’t travel far and waiting anywhere give me bad anxiety as I need the toilet which stems from my ibs when stressed or anxious been going on and off 25 years

4 years ago I was pregnant with twins after Mirena coil removal band hemorgahed lost baby 1 at 2 months pregnant due to hemoraghing and had bedrest for just over 3 months had more hemorghing lots internal scans etc

I then caught sepsis in my womb hospital critical care intensive care lost 2 litres blood and the baby at 5 months pregnant a little girl we called Lily.

Then I had 2 months hemorghing blue lighted by ambulance to resus and a total of 9 blood transfusions and 2 placelet transfusions

The consultant was awful etc

I had to have Mirena coil back in to stop bleeding

So I’ve had pain and had a scan and the coil has slipped and tomorrow I have to go to a doctor have it removed and a new one put in.

This doctor isn’t great I told her I had anxiety about the scan and a full bladder as ibs and she didn’t even reply and now she’s said leave the coil out I had to ask her if she had read my notes if I don’t have one I’ll bleed to death she replied no ....

So now I am scared I’ll bleed again hemoragh and go through all that along with a doctor that isn’t very nice.

I know she’s busy etc but having anxiety is so hard esp with those who don’t understand ... I never go to the doctors I have PTSD as this everytime I’m in the waiting room I have to keep going to toilet and then I worry I won’t hear my name called out, then in the doctors room I need the toilet as anxious along with I don’t know if the 4 year coil is embedded and what if I hemorgh again last time I lost 1/2 my blood.

I need to calm down but how ? I know the breathing I need to do but I’m really anxious x

[Lauriem4]

Sorry for your loss and bad experience. I lost 2 litres of blood after having my daughter and suffer with ptsd still as its such a scary experience . I take propranolol for when i am really anxious which does help with the symptoms x

[Runrabbit50 in reply to Lauriem4]

Thankyou I think anxiety meds would help me they lke dishing out antidepressants which gained me 40lbs last time so it’s a worry x

[nicetry]

I’m sorry you’re suffering, Runrabbit. First I’d say, get a new doctor! I’m in the US so it’s easy to do that, I don’t know about the NHS in UK. You deserve a doc who listens & who you’re more comfortable with. (I have an appt tomorrow about which I’m really anxious BTW)

Also, don’t be afraid to let the nurses/doctor know about your ibs & anxiety. It might actually make you feel better to get it off your chest. And they’ve probably heard it before.

I’ve become one of those people who complains if I’ve been waiting too long either in the waiting room or exam room. I don’t know how that happened bc that’s totally against my usual nature 😉

[Runrabbit50 in reply to nicetry]

Thankyou

I stopped going to the doctors first they told me sepsis in pregnancy was pregnancy sickness !!! I nearly died and lost our baby. Then I went a year later about my ibs and all he did was give me an anxiety leaflet. So they knwo I’ve had counselling and antidepressants for it all failed they won’t test me for allergies or intolances.

Our doctors won’t let you have a new one and the next one is travelling distance and I can’t travel.

UK is so bad now healthcare cut back so badly my son in law hung him self last year aged 22 he got no help for the health service.

I have waited 90 minutes for a 2 minute doctors app many times and when you have ibs triggered by waiting it’s really awful.

Thanks a lot I do feel I need more help than I get but I sort of resigned myself years ago to just getting through each dreadful medical event

[nicetry in reply to Runrabbit50]

I’m so sorry about your son and about your personal difficulties. Even in the US, docs not believing our symptoms are real is a problem.