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QoL on down, QoL on down the road...

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Hey y'all, been off HU for a bit - two weekends ago my 89 yr Aunt in Irvine fell and her neighbors called me - my # is on Aunt's front door, I drove down and spent a couple nights there. She did fine the next day, but a total 180 the next and two nights later she passed. She's at Peace now🙏

This last Saturday, I got big miles in for my Make a Wish 28 mile thingie, tho due to poor turnout, it got postponed and surprise😜, I made my own to do on my Bday in May up here on the PCT.

Sunday, saw The Wiz at the Pantages with the same lady from Tina and the Journey concert 😁

It was Rockin

Wiz encore : photos.app.goo.gl/rS4urU1ew...

Drove to the Hollywood Reservoir for a hike and didn't notice that LA DWP locked the gates at 5pm. 😱 But, they were very nice and let me get to my car😍 then up here

Pix if ya wanna - a variety of pix. screenshots, photos.app.goo.gl/h9rZ4WVgU...

Aloha and Love to Y'all

QoL On/Fight on my Bruddahs and Sistas 💙

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Fiddler2004

Sorry for the loss of your loving Aunt, life is beautiful, thanks for sharing your photos 🙏

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dockam in reply toFiddler2004

Mahalo nui loa Brother, she was so angry that 2nd day of still being here :-(.

She's at Peace and You're Welcome about pix, wanna show that #stageivpca doesn't ruin my World

QoL on

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Fiddler2004 in reply todockam

🙏 I strive for QOL over longevity as well

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Was looking at your bio. Is Xtandi still doing the job? If not I would be interested in knowing treatment you have had or having now. Thanks.

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Fiddler2004 in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Yes, so far, though I been sick on and off October through January and missed almost 90 days of Lupron and Xtandi so PSA has risen, were gonna wait 60 days then if need be make a change, though MO hasn't hinted as to what that might be. Year 4 held steady below 1...

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NickJoy

So sorry about your auntie - take care xxx

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dockam in reply toNickJoy

Mahalo nui Loa Sista, I had just shopped at the Asian market for Chinese New Years the Monday before. :-(. Her handwriting waaay better than mine

My Best to y'all on your PCa Journey

Betty's shopping list
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NickJoy in reply todockam

It is indeed really lovely hand writing and the ingredients also sound great. I had a Chinese friend over for a CNY celebration and provided her with a typical British roast lunch complete with apple crumble! She didn't seem to mind but looking at that list I can see I have a lot to learn to be ready for next year!

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dockam in reply toNickJoy

Oh sweet, I was in London in 2017 visiting my son, yea we did pub crawls, and we had a Roast Lunch - I posted a pic on FB and called it Meat Jenga 😜

London Roast Lunch
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dockam in reply toNickJoy

It was so delish

The restaurant was a previous Brothel LoL
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hopeful1956

Randy, I'm sooo sorry about your Aunt. What a wonderful newphew you were to her. My heartfelt condolences to you, family and her friends. Sending gentle hugs. Love and Light.

🙏

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dockam in reply tohopeful1956

Mahalo nui loa my Sista for the Love and Support💙, I really hadn't had a lot of contact until the more recent several years when I'd go down to take her shopping, prior to that she'd take a lil rolling cart and walk over. I'm so glad that I was able to do that with her

The neighbor who called me had initially seen Betty out pushing that cart and befriended her. Because of that random or maybe Divine interaction, Betty was found and stabilized at Hoag Hospital.

A year earlier on a shopping trip
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DesertDaisy

I'm so sorry for your loss Randy. Your aunt was so fortunate to have her as her nephew.

Kay

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dockam in reply toDesertDaisy

Mahalo nui loa Desert Daisy, Yea, Betty was opinionated and stubborn, maybe being single her whole life contributed to that, never had to compromise.

She finally accepted that I really didn't mind the drive and would sometimes do it with an event the night before in the OC

I got foods that I wanted eg Gai Lan (Chinese Broc) Baby Bok Choy, Napa Cabbage, and frozen seafood. Win Win

QoL on

Grocery haul from 99 Ranch
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Kaliber in reply todockam

Boy Aunt Betty looks like a sweetie in those pictures , anyway. Yayahahahaya my condolences buddy, so sorry.

Been eating some baby bok choy myself last few lunchtimes. Putting it in my bonito miso ramen. ( shiitake slices, green onions etc. ) checking out and learning to use artisanal Tonkotsu ramen broth too. Lip smacking QOL foodie fun.

I continue to like - enjoy your choices of theater , the Wiz is a classic.

Saw you are expecting up to 2” of snow down there this weekend, yikes …. Hope you dont get hammered buddy. I think it’s gonna drench Ventura too , can’t run over and escape …. Dang it. Maybe it won’t but getting back might be challenging. Looks like we’ll be expecting about an inch and a half rain here too.

Love ya buddy

❤️❤️❤️

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dockam in reply toKaliber

She was nice and also stubborn too LoL. Ohhh Bonito miso ramen esp on a snowy day

Yea, crazy Snow storm on it's way, maybe two feet, Imma be stuck in my dungeon with Kuuipo, maybe I'll throw her into the snow bank, nah too mean. No Beach Therapy this weekend, I'm gonna paint a stone for Betty and place it in the Memorial Garden up in Ventura

Betty's Univ of Hawaii graduation, Dad and Mom beside her. My Mom far left

Much Love Bruddah Kal

Chun side of the Ohana
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Kaliber in reply todockam

Great looking family buddy ,

I’d heard a few inches over your way , on local TV … didn’t know 2’ …yayayayayayaya. You need my truck, 2’ of snow is playtime for my truck. They said the snow will be an extremely rare type of large flake super rare “ fluffy “ snow ….of a type rarely seen.

❤️❤️❤️

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dockam in reply toKaliber

They all look alike🤣

JK

Yikes 2 feet Sat night thru Sunday am

Snow forecast
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Kaliber in reply todockam

Post some pictures of your igloo and snowmobile ….when it happens.

😂😂😂😂

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Here I am youtu.be/NZ3NTYwcQB0?si=XFD...

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Fur lined jock strap

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dockam in reply toKaliber

Like that Darn Cat😂

Kuuipo and I
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Don717

My condolences to your family. Thanks for the photos!

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dockam in reply toDon717

Mahalo nui loa Bruddah,

Made a switch to do QoLing posts as a distraction from the drecks of ADT SEs. Did previous posts about taking Betty shopping and thought HU peeps might be interested. Also,I blame the many pix that are taken on being Azn😜 LoL, it also serves as documentation of trips, events eg. Over 9yrs on PCa meds and the memory is iffy now, so I can go back in time

youtu.be/xNWYvHHU1U8?si=bjV...

Fight on/QoL on

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MouseAddams

Remember we have all been change by our family and friends… I am glad you were able to be with your beloved aunt for her final days - a blessing in disguise

youtu.be/OqQd3VSar7U?featur...

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dockam in reply toMouseAddams

Mahalo nui loa Sista Mouse. You read my mind Sis, I love the song"For Good" and have sent it to many and the Circle is now complete as I have now received it for the very first time💙

"I've heard it said,

That people come into our lives for a reason

Bringing something we must learn.

And we are led to those

Who help us most to grow if we let them.

And we help them in return.

Who can say if I've been changed for the better, but

Because I knew you

Because I knew you

Because I knew you

I have been changed for good"

fb.watch/quiTs3D9wo/

Dang onions making me tear up

Me ke Aloha Pumehana - with warm love

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CAMPSOUPS

Condolences at loss of your aunt. 89. She must be on your mom's side of the family.

Like the pics too. Must be your HS graduation. The Buick?

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dockam in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Mahalo nui loa Bruddah, 89 is a long time and yes, she's my Mom's youngest sis. A story from when they were little in Hawaii. The four girls were at school and the admin there told them they had to choose English names cuz they couldn't use the Chinese ones😭. So that's how the Chun girls became Doris, Violet, Evelyn, and Betty😆

Loyola Marymount U 1979 graduation lmu.edu/ HS was Damien Memorial for Saint Damien, now coed 😆 damien.edu/

The Buick was parked outside a Wine Tasting room in town and it was so cool, I had to take a pic

QoL on

LMU Class of 1979 Where's Kammo?
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CAMPSOUPS in reply todockam

Your the guy in the front row with the sunglasses and I'm the guy on the right side in the backrow. Just kidding. Are you wearing bib overalls in the picture?

The Chun family looks great.

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dockam in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Close, but no cigar, that's my Freshman year roomie, we parted after Year One as he had weed growing in closet under gro-lights. I'm the long haired freaky person 3rd from the Left first row. At Damien HS we had to wear a tie and have short hair, so I rebelled in College

"and the sign said long haired freaky people, need not apply"

youtu.be/gYvdTvUcGIM?si=cZo...

Mahalo about the Chuns - G'ma and G'pa lived on 1st floor and my Dad's Dad was upstairs

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CAMPSOUPS in reply todockam

Almost cut my hair.

Had to be a good family life it seems. Nice.

I actually kinda thought that was you. Yea those were the rebellion days for me too.

My buddies and I took typing and home eck (spelling lol) just to make people go WTF.

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CAMPSOUPS in reply toCAMPSOUPS

I would have got along with your roommate lol. Im the guy on the far left.

on way to concert
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dockam in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Sweet, you remember who you were seeing? Maybe these guys: youtu.be/MNKL9onYB_8?si=Dwl...

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dockam in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Wow, you were in Three Dog Night!!! youtu.be/DTCyjYjsVc8?si=cnM...

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CAMPSOUPS in reply todockam

Far from today. Hardly any mustachio lol.

hangin out
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Kaliber in reply toCAMPSOUPS

peas in a pod , it was fashionable

Earlier days
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CAMPSOUPS in reply toKaliber

Yea ain't it the truth. Those were good times generally. Now I sound really old lol.

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Kaliber in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Yep, you take ‘em for granted …. Until you can’t. Yayahahaha

❤️❤️❤️

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youtu.be/JnxTT7XXMPA?si=z3Y...

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She that song almost epitomizes it. We were leetle kids when that song came out. Wide variety in those days on the air waves. Motown, psychedelia, rock, blues rock, soul, folk

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Yadifan

Big hugs Randy! I'm sure it meant everything to her to have you by her side. You bring so much comfort and love to so many. Aloha and fight on.

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dockam in reply toYadifan

Mahalo nui loa Sista, Yes it did and it meant so much to me also. I became a Caregiver like so many of y'all on HU💙That's such a Beautiful act of Love.In 1995, I was back home in Honolulu and was there when he passed from pancreatic cancer at 67 😭. My next bday, when I do that Make a Wish hike, I'll be 67. This one's for you Dad

Much Aloha and Love to y'all

Kam Ohana 1st row my 5 kiddos Behind the couch : younger bro and his Son
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Yadifan in reply todockam

What a great picture! And such a wonderful way to honor your dad. It is truly the greatest honor to be a caregiver to your loved one.

You are a treasure sir.

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dockam in reply toYadifan

Yes, such a fun pic too, must be like in 1994 as my daughter was born 12/93. Looks like our house in CA. My younger bro, Dad and I were in Vegas - maybe this was a part of it and my Dad needed a suppository placed, younger bro told me to do it, and I replied that I worked in the Northern Hemisphere😜 .

Of Course I ended up placing it

youtu.be/i-6PnsnBpQE?si=IFb...

And Awwww Mahalo for that Sis 💙

youtu.be/PC49th-Jf0s?si=4Rr...

Me ke Aloha Pumehana - With Warm Love

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CAMPSOUPS in reply todockam

I misses that posted 2 days ago. Wow really cool, well warm pic!

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zeitgeistxx

I'm sorry about your Aunt. It's nice you were there for her at the end. You're a good human being with a large soul. :)

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dockam in reply tozeitgeistxx

Mahalo nui loa, Yes it was so very nice to be there for her. At first I thought that I would just help the neighbors take her in for care, I didn't even pack an overnight bag - LoL no toothbrush!

But, Betty was just done with Life and at 89, and being a recluse, I could see that :-(. It was so hard hearing her over and over saying that she just wanted to die, but she's at Peace and that's what she wanted💙

Mahalo again for your Lovely words - I'm tryna make dem Ripples

Much Aloha and Love

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zeitgeistxx in reply todockam

Your Ripples always make me smile.

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MouseAddams in reply tozeitgeistxx

Love this version of the song. My Brother-in-law used it for his memorial service on Maui in 2015

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zeitgeistxx in reply toMouseAddams

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the music inspired some good memories of your Brother. Hugs from me to you.

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dockam in reply tozeitgeistxx

Awww, Mahalo nui loa - that's the main point of QoLing 😁 - youtu.be/ffej15-Dgl0?si=utz...

youtu.be/iY91ClURQJQ?si=BQC...

Smile On

Laugh on

Love on

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JWPMP

Been missing your posts 😌Truly sorry to hear you lost your Aunt. Such a blessing she had you there.

For all you do and share

Mahalo

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dockam in reply toJWPMP

Awww Hey and Mahalo nui loa Sista, as you probs read she was just done, but I'm so grateful that I was able to be with her in her last days💙. Now the crazy part, cleaning out her place and I guess place the townhouse as a lease/rental - promised that I wouldn't sell it

That Snow Storm forecast was a bust hope that Y'all up there didn't get too slammed.

youtu.be/et7SReenr_s?si=MFN...

Much Aloha and Love😁

Shopping Trip
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JWPMP in reply todockam

The brunt of the storm passed us by thankfully...we are saturated and have some sick livestock that need a break. Police chase Saturday a week back, and this person picks our deadend road to go 120 mph and plow through our fence and field and terrorize the animals. Can't outrun a helicopter. Anyway, glad your aunt didn't linger...

Sounds a bit like my aunt who passed a couple years ago...My Uncle wrote her up for a magazine article (long interesting story for another time), but point being "Marion T Moses, no one could mistake the T for tactful" lol

Thanks for the music posts and I always smile even on difficult days when I read through your posts/replies.

Thank you for the 🌞🌞🌞

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dockam in reply toJWPMP

Awesome that y'all were spared, was crazy in Donner and Truckee 😭youtu.be/BiAwGndHtIE?si=p_4...

I'm just a lil Hawaii boy and glad that the forecasted 10 - 15 inches of snow didn't happen here, that also coulda shut down my office.

A'ole Pilikia No problemo and My Pleasure Sista😂

My new raison d'etre - QoLing to bring smiles/laughter

youtu.be/MX5mVBjZe6I?si=Qif...

youtu.be/Bld8KNOO478?si=QyM...

QoL on

Smile on

Spring on

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siouxbee19

So sorry bout your Aunt, but so glad you got to spend time together before she passed. You are correct, definitely in a better place! 🕊️🙏❤️🕯️Thank you for sharing your pics and journeys, looks fun and food looks yummy!😁

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dockam in reply tosiouxbee19

Mahalo nui loa and Yea She's finally at Peace.

Fun and Food - These are a few of my QoLing things

youtu.be/0IagRZBvLtw?si=TkB...

QoL on

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