parenting a child with ADHD - feeling judged....

[rollercoaster22]

Hi, I am new here. My son is 5 almost 6, kindergarten was a rough year for us. We had major anxiety, a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder, and now an ADHD diagnosis. Now he is grade 1. Our school has been great, but some of his friends parents aren't so understanding. He is a bit aggressive, can't control his impulses. We just started medicine today, so hopefully that will help. One of the hardest things I find though is the judgy looks and comments by other parents. I'm doing my best, and Iknow life will never be perfect... but sometimes it's so hard.

How do you deal with the stress of parenting a child with difficulties like ADHD?

[Boymom3]

I have felt judged bc of the boys behavior and by how I have to deal with them. If you try to make them behave it looks like you're being harsh, but if you let them do what they will, it looks like you're letting them run wild. Can't win. I've come to the place that I can't care what other people think. If you know you're doing your best, hold your head high. Having said that, I know I am guilty of judging as well. Before I was in the situation myself, I simply didn't understand and they don't either. Forgive them. I have a friend or two that hang in there with me and I treasure them. God provides. Take care of yourself. Exercise and making time to be by yourself to relax and reset is crucial. Laugh every chance you get. Pray and be thankful. That's how I deal with the stress. Tried medication but it didn't agree with me. I do have a glass of wine some nights 😉. I hope this was helpful. Hang in there!

[Cheryliejae]

Hi I'm new here as well, try not worry about what people say or think they're not on your situation therefore they don't know what's going on. I have a 7 year old son and after he was diagnosed in kindergarten and started his meds I saw a big difference. He focus more and he's able to stay on task during school. His meds is a time released capsule that his pediatrician prescribed specifically for him at school. Stay positive and keep God first and foremost He will grant you the desires of your heart concerning your child. Please pray for his friends and their parents. People don't understand ADHD is hard for any child they don't understand what's going on with them.

[Lacy_Mcc]

I have a first grade boy with ADHD as well and feel your pain. He's always "that kid" on the playground that is too rough, too bossy, and too wild so no one wants to play with him. I can feel other parents judging my parenting as he climbs over booths at restaurants, talks back to me, etc. It's really tough...especially having 3 other children and having to divide my time and efforts among them. I wish I had advice or answers for you but I'm in the same boat