Jealous OCD

[Vector304]

Hi everyone, this is my first time seeking a community or support for my OCD. I’m sick of dealing with it alone. I’m in an extremely loving and positive relationship with a man who is very open with me and non judgmental. Recently I started having extreme jealousy over his exes, even though ever since we met he had always told me how different I am and how special our relationship is (unsolicited by me). This used to happen to me in my first relationship, but I thought that was because he had exes but I didn’t. Now that I have my own romantic past, I figured those obsessive jealous thoughts wouldn’t happen anymore, especially with someone like who I’m with now. Does anyone have this experience or suggestions with how to deal with it? It affects my interactions with him and is not fair to him or our relationship.

[mopedmike]

I get not wanting to deal with it alone. I don't have the same thoughts but the long and short of it is they are absurd and overly intrusive, unwelcomed thoughts. Life is hard enough and we don't need this. OCD doesn't get the hint. I hope you are getting some help medically . I've been diagnosed and have in the past taken perscription meds to aliviate it's effects. Through a long series of circumstances I'm not currently on Meds but take dietary measures and vitamin suplements to increase my serotonin (which is what people who suffer from ocd don't have enough of) Because I also have heart failure, I had to consult with my pharmacist to be sure that none of my OCD beating measures were interfearing with my heart meds. What I assume is that you have indeed already been diagnosed as OCD so we're not barking up the wrong tree as far as treatent is concerned.

[Penny56]

I'm a woman who often suffered jealousy in relationships. I haven't been in any in years. For me, it was worse when the partner was nonmonogamous or dishonest. It was less intrusive when my partner was more devoted to me and to the relationship. My OCD starting in my early 30s. I had jealousy issues before the OCD started, due to family history and poor choices of partners. I think it's a complex issue and therapy might help.