5DP5DT Second FET ❌ Negative 😢 in out again - why does this keep happening?!

[Sunshine92]

Ive tested 5DP5DT from my second FET and its negative so im out. I know people will say its soo early but i know the result is right in my gut I got a positive with my son from a fresh transfer on 5DPT.

Why isnt it working? 😢 my embryos were both 10/10, my lining was 9.6mm at my day 11 scan, trilaminer. Im fit and healthy. On lubion and had embryo glue. I can’t understand it and im just broken. I dont know if i can go through this pain again 😭

[amalhope]

I think it’s bit early to call yourself out just yet. I never thought it would happen even when people say it to me but you really can have a positive after negatives on day 8p5dt!! It just happened to me this cycle !

[Sunshine92 in reply to amalhope]

Did you get a negative 5DPT and go on to have a positive?

I just know in my gut im not pregnant .. the negative text just confirmed it. I know my body and it would be positive by now. Finding it all so hard 😣 when all i see is pregnancy around me x

[amalhope in reply to Sunshine92]

Yes it was negative at day 6 so I thought I m out because with my first daughter I got faint positive at day4 and I was certain that my body would never give a positive past day five as I had 3 failures before this transfer that were negative at day 6

To my surprise this time tested and day8 and got it! Hcg is not doubling well at this time but I saw the sac at 5w 6days and will go back next week to check if it’s viable😅 so not out of the woods yet but this journey tought me that everything is possible 🤸🏻‍♀️

[Kate-92]

I didn’t have a positive until day 9PT & it was very faint. I am currently 28 wks pregnant x 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 keeping everything crossed for you x

[Sunshine92 in reply to Kate-92]

Congratulations. Did you test earlier than that? These were the tests from my successful fresh transfer that resulted in my son 4 years ago. Positives on an asda cheapie at 5DPT. I just know im out 😞

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[Kate-92 in reply to Sunshine92]

Yes I did I tested everyday from transfer day x don’t rule it out yet. I’ve read of so many people getting them later on x

[amalhope in reply to Kate-92]

Hi kate

May I ask what were your beta numbers?

I got my positive at 8dp5dt and my doctor thinks that it’s a late implanter and may nt be viable😅

[Kate-92 in reply to amalhope]

My clinic didn’t do beta which was both a blessing and a curse as I just had to rely on my body & the tests x I think I had a late implanter as if you look on my profile at my day 9 line, it’s barely there x

[HollyT7]

I tested positive with my second later than I did my first frozen transfer. And I also tested negative one day with my first and faint positive the next day. All it can take is those few hours. Sit tight, your not out until otd x

[Twiglet2]

a frozen transfer can take a little longer to implant than a fresh transfer I got my postive at 7 and 8dpt (the 7 days one was my little boy other was a chemical) for fresh transfers something was showing from day 5/6 (miscarriages unfortunately). As you can see I am also an early tester and sometimes you do know your own body but I was bleeding and everything at day 7 with that FET that was our little boy and absolutely convinced I was out. I’ve had many negative rounds though where I’ve just known the tests won’t change so I’m not trying to say you dont know your own body but sometimes it can surprise us!

If it is a negative still in a few days then I’d suggest you go aimed with lots of questions to your next consultation oN anything else you might try but if you’ve had 3 transfers so far and one was successful that’s about the right stats for how many times it works- sometimes it just doesn’t due to the embryo itself and there’s not a lot we can do about that but keep on trying 💜🤞🏽obviously once you’ve had some time to grieve this one not working and yell at the universe etc. which I find is pretty normal for me and probably quite healthy for a few days to get those emotions out as it’s bloody tough!!! Xx

[Sunshine92 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you so much for responding. Ive tested this morning with FMU at 6DPT and very very negative. Im a but all over the place today and dreading facing work 😕

This will be my fourth transfer over all. 2 fresh and 2 frozen and only 1 has stuck (the second fresh). My consultant spoke about adding clexane if this transfer failed. I have 3 more frozen left. Im not even sure if mentally (and financially) i can go through this again any time soon.

[Twiglet2 in reply to Sunshine92]

Aww I’m so sorry it’s still negative defo give it another few days though before giving up hope though I’ve seen it turn around so many times for folk! 😢

I know I hear you! It’s pretty draining isn’t it? I’m on transfer number 8 trying for a sibling (5 egg collections) it took 6 IUI and 3 transfers (from one egg collection) to get our son so I wrongly assumed it would work after 3-4 transfers again! I’m on clexane now and it has meant I’ve had more implant (although I’ve miscarried later) so I’m staying on it as I do think it’s helping. It’s nippy and annoying but worth a try maybe? Xx

[Tigerlilyy]

Honestly, your gut feeling doesn't tell you anything! With my previous pregnancy I was absolutely convinced it hadn't worked out (zero symptoms) and yet the result is screaming for more berries right now. 5dp5dt is way too early. I had a stark white test at 8dp5dt and am 8 weeks pregnant today (again, zero symptoms not even breast soreness).

[Glaedy]

In one of my transfers I had vf positive 6dp5dt on the pm test i will keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞

[Rosebud3]

Hi, there’s still a chance it could change for you but in case it doesn’t I just wanted to say that you’re not alone.

I’m 10dp5dt and got a BFN today. I’ve got a 5 year old boy also born via IVF, and since then have had 5 FETs to try and get a much wanted second child. We’ve suffered 2 different types of pregnancy loss and 3 BFNs. All from embryos created when I was 30. And always being told we’ve got a good chance of success!

We are completely baffled and totally heartbroken as to why this isn’t happening for us when the odds are in our favour!

Sending love and best wishes for a positive outcome x

[Sunshine92 in reply to Rosebud3]

Thank you so much for your comment. Its has comforted me more than you know ❤️

I’m 6DPT today, tested both with FMU and this afternoon using different brand tests and very very negative. I’m certain the outcome is ‘t a happy one for us.

I’m so sorry to hear about sll you’ve gone through 😞 i can empathise being in a very similar situation. My son is 3.5years old and this was our second failed FET to have a much wanted second child. I have 3 more embryos left, all thankfully great quality and similarly to you made when i was 27! Both of my FETs have been ‘text book’ and after my last round failed my consultant was in shock. I imagine she will be this time too. I wish i could make it make sense. As good as it is in some ways to not have any ‘problems’ i almost wish there was a definitive issue as to why it hasnt worked that can be resolved for next time as opposed to just putting it down to ‘luck’ - that seems all the more cruel …

I wish i would give you a hug, from one broken hearted woman experiencing loss while trying to hold it together for their young child to another 🫂. Its a horrible club to be in, but you too are not alone xx

[MammaMia86]

Here I am thinking about giving you advice when I am the first one that doesn't know why I don't get pregnant....I've got pregnant on my first transfer, but on week 17 we had to terminate the pregnancy because the water broke....since then I've had 6 transfers (currently on my 2 ww) nobody can tell me 100% why. I had to go to the hematologist and immunologist and I am taking another medication to help with my blood.....so my only hope is that these things will actually make a different.

No matter the result don't loose hope, it will happen😘