IUI at 43

[MontsJ]

I’m hoping to hear from anyone whose had an IUI whose in a similar age range as me. I am 43 with secondary infertility (following primary infertility) and I have low ovarian reserve and had lap excision of mild endo 5 weeks ago, I also have mild diffuse adenomyosis. My husband won’t agree to IVF, and as we’ve been trying for just over 2 years now I’m keen to try something different. We’ve done two timed intercourse cycles with letrozole and are now in the middle of our first IUI. At the moment I have three follicles tracking at roughly the same size, which for me is good. I’m trying not to get ahead of myself and know that the chances of success are incredibly low.

[leo1980]

hello!

I am 43 too! We have had 3 IUI’s when I was 36 (been trying to conceive for 8 years). It didn’t work for us. Unexplained infertility in our case. After multiple rounds of failed IVF, I am currently pregnant (14 weeks) with a PGT tested embryo from 4 years ago.

Did your husband have tests too? I suppose how successful you are would determine if all is ok on his side too. We had morphology issues (irregular shaped sperm) but we only figured that out after the IUI’ had we known before I wouldn’t have wasted time and money on the IUI! We needed ICSI. Having said that - it did work for my friends (same sex couple) they did have a younger male donor (he was 20ish) they were in their 40’s.

Best of luck!

[MontsJ in reply to leo1980]

Thank you for replying 😊 My husband has had sperm analysis twice and his results have been above average. We are planning another sperm analysis and DNA frag test tomorrow as a precaution.

[Jumpppy]

Good luck!!! Based on your post, you've been told that the odds are low, but maybe this is the gateway to convince your husband? Time is not on your side 😞 Really hope you defy the odds and this works for you - fingers crossed.

[MontsJ in reply to Jumpppy]

Very much know time is not on my side, and I‘ve been saying it repeatedly. Unfortunately that argument hasn’t worked so far, hence the IUI and this post

[bluebasket]

Why is your husband opposed to IVF?

[MontsJ in reply to bluebasket]

We had three previous rounds of IVF and didn’t have a good experience with that clinic. Since then I’ve had some challenging times with consultants, being older with low ovarian reserve means you are quick to be dropped. He just views it all as a money making business with no one being transparent or advocating for you as an individual couple. And he just can’t get past that and look towards finding someone who does want to work hard with you to achieve success. It’s also hard to explain that protocols and the use of additional testing are all a bit of an unknown, there isn’t one way to do things and in that sense it’s all a bit experimental.