*TW*:Check in on depressed ppl who act happy out of nowhere. Im kinda preoccupied with my family but my friend attempting to end it, is uh

[Against_the_current]

Shocking....I just. I just don't know what to say.

I'm in a shock since yesterday.

Remember i wrote about a friend on 1st of November? Then he dissapeared.

Asked some common friend, she told me. But yesterday i was doing homework with her and he texted. I asked how he was, he said "i haven't told you but..."and then told me he jumped off the 6th floor. I froze. I said im so sorry and he said it's not my fault. I actually worried if i did something but realized people who have already decided to end it act happy and relentless before it (studied it recently) . So seeing me and being bold with me was a sign. I was getting home, it was like 10pm, but i texted begging to reach out to me if he ever feels like that. Also thanked him for telling me and for being alive.

So point 1 - reach out, please

Point 2 - check in if a depressed person acts happy out of nowhere

Point 3 - im a mess, already worrying about my sister and my family and my anxiety, and now this messing up my head

P. S. Has all bones broken now and that's really horrific

P. S. 2. I wasn't going to tell you about this as it's a heavy topic but i just can't assimilate it. It's bugging me.

[SoporRose]

Telling us was the right thing to do. That's why this site exists. Your reminder about how people with depression can seem better when they decide to commit suicide is important.

I am amazed that your friend survived. I hope he makes a complete recovery, both body and soul. This is another heavy load for you to carry. It's not that it is in any way your responsibility nor your fault, but you care about this friend and so of course it will weigh on you. Good for you for letting him know that you are there to support him. He is lucky to have you.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Thank you for understanding. And I hope too. He said he might never walk again and that broke my heart. And kinda dodged my help, hope he's okay

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

It's really hard to know how much to insist on being allowed to help. Sometimes people really want friends to push in as a way to be sure the friends WANT to help and sometimes people really do need to left alone. I have no idea how to tell the difference. I can't see how never walking again will help with your friend's depression. I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say. I hope someday you will find a friend like you to be your friend.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Thanks. I can't tell the difference neither. I try to just ask. I just get pushed away and I don't know whether to leave them alone or keep pushing

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

How would you want your friends to respond if it were you? I remember when I was having a major crisis, a friend called me and asked if I wanted her to come over. I said no, I didn't want company; I didn't want anyone to see me like that. Her response was, "I'm coming over," and she came and it wasn't until she was there that I realized how much I needed her to come.

[Darkhouse]

I've been on the other end, and done the "extremely happy" to everyone thing too, before my one attempt. I wouldn't have accepted help from anyone. It was the first time I had felt peace in a long time, and no one could have changed my mind. I think my husband was just so thankful that I wasn't so hopelessly sad, and he doesn't understand depression (hence I'm on this site) but no one did anything wrong. I was very sick but hiding it well. You cannot help everyone. But it never ever hurts to reach out, because you don't know until you do. Some people can be... Great advice, thank you... Just wanted to share from the other side....

[Against_the_current in reply to Darkhouse]

Thank you for sharing. Yeah, that's what im talking about. And why we should check in. Hope you're feeling better now